HOT DEBATE READERS!! OVER 30 AND SINGLE?
Susan's story from hot group Nigerian Women in the Diaspora:
"Over 30, single and very well adjusted, but society - well, Nigerians in particular seem to think there's something wrong with that picture. I've heard it all from 'you know too much' to something about a spirit husband!
Oh by the way, are we allowed to cuss on this board? Yes? Good!
Fortunately for me, the pressure is not from my immediate family, but so called concerned friends and family. Concerned my a$% !! I am so sick of people saying they will pray for me and I've told quite a number of them to go pray for themselves first (vrs telling them to go do something else with themselves); like being single is a sin or some kind of disease!!"
I can go on, but I'm sure you all have something to say.
Well readers what do you have to say? Guys must comment on this one!
"Over 30, single and very well adjusted, but society - well, Nigerians in particular seem to think there's something wrong with that picture. I've heard it all from 'you know too much' to something about a spirit husband!
Oh by the way, are we allowed to cuss on this board? Yes? Good!
Fortunately for me, the pressure is not from my immediate family, but so called concerned friends and family. Concerned my a$% !! I am so sick of people saying they will pray for me and I've told quite a number of them to go pray for themselves first (vrs telling them to go do something else with themselves); like being single is a sin or some kind of disease!!"
I can go on, but I'm sure you all have something to say.
Well readers what do you have to say? Guys must comment on this one!
Comments
I am laughing my butts off! I can imagine this may be a serious issue for some people. I mean people who always want to tell other how to live their lives. What if people make the couscious and take the well-thought decision to be single at any point of their live be it 30 or 50. As if being single by choice reduces the quality and takes away the value of life! Who says people who are "single" in the opinion of others are not surrounded by people who love them, but not in the way and terms of people who see single as being negative. Well, I have got news for those people. I can point them countless other people who are prisoners in horrendous relationships from hell all because of social, cultural, peer and family pressure. Well any human being with a reasonable degree of common-sense should know that everyone deserves the right to be happy in life. And it's different folks and different strokes. What works for Cain might not work for Abel. It's all about accepting and respecting one another!
I really don't know when single became a bad thing... i'm enjoying being single @ the moment. Even if i had someone, i would not want us to get married for the wrong reason , like being 30.
My advice to any 30 year old being harrased by questions is too keep smiling, accept the prayers ( bet u God doesn't even have time for all those marriage prayer worriors), and thank them for their concern... cus no matter what, they will keep talkin.
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And it's this same people that will talk about you and label you as a divorcee or will let everyone know that you are not happy. So why not just wait and do it right the first time.
I'm married now and the next question on everyone's lip is when the baby is coming......it's seems like u can't catch a break with Naija pple.....
On the other hand, it seems like the majority of the "over 30 & single" ladies are well educated, financially secured with loads of degrees. Sometimes these accomplishments may result into pride which may get into the way of meeting mr. right. If you want mr. right do not let the pressure influnce your words. Remember, our words have great power.
In order to receive our heart desire, our relationship with GOD must be amended. I hope not to offend anyone but its my testimony. Once, i began to get closer & closer to GOD so many doors opened for me. I prayed for a nice cozy condo & GOD made a BIG way for something I could not have dreamt of..) rec. a good position at a big 4 company, have...... so much, when i went back to HIM on my KNEEES. Marriage is a beautiful thing & I want to be part of it, everyone should. If mr. right is not forth coming, PRAY PRAY PRAY for him, & yes prayer works trust me. I'm a diva who would not settle for less, would you ? Let me know if i can help in anyway :-)
@anonymous yes it is interesting how people actually live their lives through others
@nigerican that seems to be the norm once a lady hits 25
@shonavixen you really have cool folks then, once again other folks trying to live their lives through others
@anon 12.58 God's time truly is the best!