NEW POST! MIXED RACE LOVE IN NAIJA! TABOO OR NORM?

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I can bet the title got you interested in this blog post. I came across this article in true love magazine and all I can say is that this is truly inspiring. I am glad to see what some see as a taboo is now a norm. You may recognize a couple in this article, Kate Hensaw Nollywood's darling with her dashing husband.


Kate and Rod share their story below:
Our very own beauty queen describes her romance with her true love!
Adeniyi shares the story of his romance with his Indian princess.
Oh love is so amazing would you marry someone outside your race? I would love to hear your comments on this one. I know I certainly will.

here is what Lisa Aremu had to say " I thought my mum was very liberal until I told her I had a crush on an indian man. Nothing came of it, but I learnt later that she ad spent many nights praying that my feelings for him would vanish before I did anything stupid"

Do you share her mum's sentiments? Thanks readers for your comments.

Comments

Omodudu said…
I do not think its a big deal at all. I'd say go for it. It appears I am the only one who is going to marry a black person in the whole family, I'd better get used to it. I tend not to find non-black very sexually attractive, that is a major handicap. There is very little difference between marrying a caucasian and marrying someone from Guinea.
9:53 AM
O.A.Eddy said…
LOL at Omodudu "There is very little difference between marrying a caucasian and marrying someone from Guinea."

You know, it is kinda true oh. Cultural differences are just that. I mean I went to a Ghanaian wedding and I was amazed at how different it was from a Nigerian wedding. That shocked me because Ghanaians and Nigerians are almost next door to each other on the map.

But anyway, I can understand why people would think that Nigerian women who marry Oyinbo are "Ashewos". I think it is due in part to Nigeria's colonial history.
10:30 AM
africa entertainment plus sports said…
Today,most of us appreciate the fact that marriage is built on love.But,we should remember that as recent as some 50 years ago Africa was still deeply secluded from the European way of life,and as far as I know ,"love" as we perceive it today was not the primary consideration in choosing wives or husbands.The youths of today's globalization age obviously think differently about these issues,but their parents(well, many of them)will still try to influence their decisions when it comes to marital choice.I however beleive that the socio-economic structure of soceity today inevitably makes the environment more liberal,and parents who oppose certain marriages are not really doing so on tribal or racial grounds - as in the case of Bianca...
4:13 PM
Olu said…
My aunties warned me b4 i came to yankee "dont marry any oyinbo o!"
all dat one is yanz...ill marry who i want to marry..i dont think anythin is wrong..
1:33 AM
Unknown said…
It is surprising but yes it still exists - there are various culturally and racial prejudices that still exist when mixed marriages and relationships are mentioned.

In Asia especially, I have read it is a TABOO to be seen in a relationship with black people and such relationships are frowned upon. Its lovely to read about the couples stories. Wishing them all great happiness in their marriages.
3:08 AM
Naija Vixen said…
it annoys me that pple still make an issue out of it, but that is the fact..it really does exist...racial discrimination...even tribalism..within the country itself...
10:14 AM
Jennifer A. said…
Very interesting topic. It shouldn't be an issue, just that our parents get concerned about us because sometimes when a couple are from two different countries or even continents it brings wahala in terms of miscommunication. And yes, parents have every right to be concerned for their children, just that they shouldn't go overboard. At the end of the day, "perfect love casts out fear."

There's no fear when it comes to love, u just want to plunge into the deep...lol.

I love the way Kate Henshaw looks close to her husband...cute couple!
3:53 PM
Anonymous said…
As sad as it may sound it is a reality we need to face. I have always prided myself in not looking at color before I date but looking at how "haute" the guy is.

I was engaged to a caucasian dude and boy was it hell just trying to get both families together. Needless to say it surely did not work out.

There are major cultural differences when you marry someone that is not from your part of town (ibo, hausa....) not to talk of someone from another race. It gets too hard to deal with sometimes.
So now to keep my sanity, I wouldn't even go that route.

We have a long way to go, both in Nigeria and in the USA, 'cause believe it or not some Americans think the same way our parents think.

We will have to reach those in our circle of influence and hopefully be able to teach the world that LOVE is all that matters, one person at a time!
10:10 AM
Anonymous said…
I recall telling my Mom that my Boyfriend is Polish........She was like???? My sister was speechless.
8:35 PM
Anonymous said…
My husband is a white American. You can even begin to imagine the hell we went through with my family because of his race. It's really sad when people in this day and age still can't seem to be able to get past the race issue. Thankfully, we have both reconciled with my family and they love and finally accepted him!
2:36 PM
Bubblegum Thug said…
My parents are polar opposites from different continents. They are still going strong @ almost 28 yrs.
Marry whom ur heart desires jare.
7:36 AM
Anonymous said…
The truth is married couples from different ethnicities or cultures will always be a problem. I think it's how you handle it,how your spouse handles it, and your parent. My father is Persian, and my mother is Yoruba. My parent come from two completely different and strong cultures, that I'm amazed how they even made it this far, but I know it's through God's grace. It was like hell growing up. It was constant fight from both families, that caused argument between my parent, just like every other relationship. They made a choice to stick to what brought them together in the first place which is the "True Love" they have for each other. Everywhere, my parent went, people saw them as odd couple. My parent have been married for 30 years and still going strong. My mother even speaks Farsi(Persian language), and my father is trying with his yoruba. My parent tell me all the time, marry whoever you love as long as he's a strong christian, and your best friend, but I'm more atrracted to black guys.
8:43 PM
Anonymous said…
Tufiakwa...Alu eme!!!! This was my opinion when I was forcibly moved to the Uk aged 12 from my beloved Nigeria. White girls or other races looked goo dto me but not to date. As I got older I became United Nations to my friends. But when I do decide to take the plunge even aged 35yrs now it has to be a Nigerian woman at least.

If your love and determination coupled with a strong spiritual conviction marring a different race shoul dnot be an issue. If it is its should be because you have NO DESIRE TO AS OPPOSED TO WHAT YOUR FAMILY WILL THINK.
6:40 PM
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